大家都知道在英語角要做一個多說多練的人,但是如果遇到一個人喜歡主導(dǎo)談話,不給別人機(jī)會發(fā)表觀點(diǎn),我們的策略師有機(jī)會的時候利用機(jī)會,沒有機(jī)會的時候創(chuàng)造機(jī)會然后再利用機(jī)會。一般喜歡占據(jù)主導(dǎo)的說話者通常也會喜歡被別人提問,這樣很有當(dāng)明星的感覺,每次去英語角和開記者招待會一樣,虛榮心可以得到極大的滿足。最關(guān)鍵的是每次提問的人只會怯生生地說出一句話,而回答的人可以說出長篇大論的東西,所以最后的結(jié)果就是提問者練聽力,說話者練口語。遇到這樣的情況,突破口就在提問的環(huán)節(jié),只要我們提問的時候用N句話,這樣就很容易鍛煉到我們自己的表達(dá)。同時,如果有鋪墊的提問也會給回答者一些時間思考答案,他本能不會排斥,畢竟貿(mào)然打斷提問是一種特別不禮貌的舉動。具體的操作方法是首先說出問題的范圍,讓他有心理準(zhǔn)備,然后再呈現(xiàn)出自己對這個問題感興趣的原因,讓他明白提問者的動機(jī),再慢慢的提出這個問題。最起碼一個問題也可以用五句話來提,比如how old are you?一個簡單問年齡的問題,也可以有很多形式的鋪墊,比如 I would like to ask a question about your age if I may. (當(dāng)然,如果對方直接說no, you may not 或者 sorry, it is not a polite question to ask. 那可以作罷,換下一個問題。)然后接著說出自己對這個問題感興趣的原因,I don’t mean to intrude in your privacy but as is indicated in lots of cases, people at different age tend to speak and behave in different ways even though their personality and value system have not changed much. That is to say, it is generally possible to tell how old the person is or how he looks at some question or topic by studying his speaking and behaviors. I happened to notice that you do have a special perspective upon the issue or topic we just talked about and it is kind of rare for people at your age to think in this way if I am right about your age. So would you please tell me how old you are? Or are you between 25 and 30? 這樣的提問效果顯而易見。
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